Ah, the Friend Zone. It’s that oh-so familiar place where you fall when someone doesn’t have a mutual love for you. If you have been or are in the Friend Zone, you’re not alone. It’s a very common place to be. There are three subcategories of the Friend Zone that you can fall under:
- She knows you’re into her and doesn’t feel the same way.
- She knows that you’re into her, but has never considered you as more than a friend.
- She has no idea you like her because you’re not very good at flirting.
If you fall under the first category, your situation is pretty hopeless. Like men, women are also allowed to be picky. You just aren’t her type and there’s pretty much nothing you can do about it. But if you fall under one of the other categories, there’s hope for you yet. Below are six, easy to follow steps to get yourself out of the Friend Zone and into a Facebook official relationship.
Spend time with her.
Sounds easy enough. You’re probably already doing this. Try and break out of the group setting—go on casual outings to the movies, coffee shop, or gym. Don’t make it a date and don’t make a big deal out of it. You’re subtly inputting yourself into her life. The more time you spend with her, the more likely she is to like you.
Don’t be her boyfriend.
This is an easy trap to fall into. If she knows you’re into her, she may take advantage of that—whether it’s on purpose or on accident. If you start offering up your manly services to change her oil or fix a door hinge, you’re becoming the guy she relies on to do all of her work for her. You don’t want to be whipped before you even start dating.
Touch her casually.
This doesn’t mean you should grab her ass or put your arm around her. I mean touch her casually. Be cool about it. Brush against her arm. Hold her knee when you tell a story, or put your hand on her lower back when you walk through a doorway. These subtle touches will resonate with a touch of intimacy.
Date other people.
But don’t flaunt it. You don’t want to be obvious about rubbing it in her face, but you should let her know that it’s not all about her. You have other prospects. And, if this whole thing doesn’t work out, you have other options!
Spend time with other people.
Don’t spend all your time with her. It will look desperate and awkward. Hang out with your other friends—maybe even invite her to join.
Ask her out.
This is the final stage in the how-to-get-out-of-the-friend-zone game. Once you’ve done all of the other things on the list, you should ask her out. You can’t play this game forever and this is the only way to finally find out how she feels so go for it!